Your assumptions play a big part in whether you’re happy. For example: If you assume that someone is going to be mean then you’re less likely to initiate contact or get to know them. Here’s another example: You assume that you can’t do a certain thing and you increase the chances that you won’t try to do it. When you assume something you’re trying to predict an outcome rather than looking at whatever is in front of you as an opportunity to learn and grow. Happy people assume less and get excited about learning new things, meeting new people and having new experiences.
When you set out to accomplish a goal or making your dreams come true you might have a specific picture of what it looks like, accompanied by expectations about what you’ll do and what it will be like. You’ll find that you’ll be much happier if you let go of expectations and just enjoy the journey. Too many people get discouraged or disappointed when things don’t turn out a certain way when they could be happy about the great things they’re doing every day.
One of the best ways to be happy is to make sure your body is healthy through regular exercise that makes sense to you. An often-missed element of overall well-being is to also pay attention to the health of your mind. You may have an amazingly fit body but it won’t feel as good if you’re mind is causing you distress. Don’t forget to work on the unresolved issues in your life and get your brain in top shape too.
A lot of people spend incredible amounts of energy trying to control the events or the people in their lives. This happens because they feel out of control deep inside and, instead of looking at themselves, they compensate by trying to control everything else.
In order to be truly happy, the only person you have to control is you. Learn how to manage your own issues and become the most healthy and whole person you can be and you’ll feel much more powerful.
You can easily make yourself miserable by constantly worrying about being happy. Some people think that being happy is about their latest achievement or conquest when it’s really about how they feel about themselves deep inside and what they do to be their authentic selves. Let go of the need to predefine or force happiness and focus instead on living a life where you think, feel and behave like the person you are at your core.