You know instantly when you’re doing something that is positive or that leads you in another, less beneficial direction. If you try to kid yourself into pretending that you’re happy or doing something positive when you’re not, you’ll have to deal with the consequences. It takes a lot of energy to kid yourself and you won’t get the results in life that you can when you follow an authentic path.
You can appear to be really happy on the outside when you’re actually miserable inside. The key to being genuinely happy in life is to be fulfilled and balanced on the inside. It means living your life according to your natural talents and abilities and consistently thinking and behaving in positive ways. Worry less about what you look like to others and more about how meaningful your life is.
It’s easy to over think your way into being less happy by thinking of all the things that might happen or didn’t happen or could have happened or won’t happen. It’s wise to think before you act but not to the point that you paralyze yourself and never do anything. Find your happy balance point where you think before you do something but not so much that you’re afraid to take a step or handle a situation.
A lot of people pretend that feelings don’t matter in life and then they spend much of their time trying to contain their emotions or redirect them in some way. When you don’t deal with your feelings, you can’t move past things that happened in the past and you’ll be less happy. The same happens with being physically close to people because human beings feel more connected when they hug each other or touch in some positive way. You can’t ignore the human need to feel wanted and bond meaningfully with others, it’s part of living a genuine, fulfilled, happy life. What will you do to be more touch-feely?
It’s difficult to be fully happy when you’re trying to avoid doing something because you have to devote space in your brain to things you haven’t dealt with. Think of the issues in your life that require attention and healing and work on one of them until it goes away. You don’t have to do everything at once, just one small step at a time. When you’re done with that issue move on to the next.