You know instantly when you’re doing something that is positive or that leads you in another, less beneficial direction. If you try to kid yourself into pretending that you’re happy or doing something positive when you’re not, you’ll have to deal with the consequences. It takes a lot of energy to kid yourself and you won’t get the results in life that you can when you follow an authentic path.
You can appear to be really happy on the outside when you’re actually miserable inside. The key to being genuinely happy in life is to be fulfilled and balanced on the inside. It means living your life according to your natural talents and abilities and consistently thinking and behaving in positive ways. Worry less about what you look like to others and more about how meaningful your life is.
It’s easy to get sucked into a cycle of constant work without any breaks. Make sure you take a break from all the work you do once in a while to recharge and reconnect with yourself. A vacation can help you see things from a different perspective as well as helping you relax and take care of yourself. You don’t have to go somewhere exotic or expensive, just make sure you take time to get away from work and enjoy the change of pace.
Your assumptions play a big part in whether you’re happy. For example: If you assume that someone is going to be mean then you’re less likely to initiate contact or get to know them. Here’s another example: You assume that you can’t do a certain thing and you increase the chances that you won’t try to do it. When you assume something you’re trying to predict an outcome rather than looking at whatever is in front of you as an opportunity to learn and grow. Happy people assume less and get excited about learning new things, meeting new people and having new experiences.
It’s easy to over think your way into being less happy by thinking of all the things that might happen or didn’t happen or could have happened or won’t happen. It’s wise to think before you act but not to the point that you paralyze yourself and never do anything. Find your happy balance point where you think before you do something but not so much that you’re afraid to take a step or handle a situation.