In the end, all that matters is love. The love you have for yourself, for others, for your life’s work and for the world is what creates joy and fulfillment. Learn to love the person you are deep inside and you’ll be happy in life. Do everything with love and you’ll experience peace and balance.
Many people never spend time alone, they’re always surrounded by family, friends or significant others, in person, texting, online or on the phone. If you don’t give yourself the opportunity to be alone with yourself and your thoughts, you’ll miss out on finding out who you genuinely are, what your inner voice is telling you and what you really want to do in life. Being alone once in a while gives you the chance to listen to yourself and decide where you want to go.
If you’ve ever met someone who acts overly happy, to the point where they seem to be putting on a show, then you know what it looks like to force happiness. Being genuinely happy doesn’t come from acting superficially peppy, it arises from being deeply satisfied with who you are as a person; how you think and behave. When you live genuinely, you won’t have to force any feeling, it will just happen.
If everything you do brings you only superficial satisfaction then you’ll have a hard time being genuinely happy in life. Look for meaning in how you think and behave. Do things that bring you deeper joy and fulfillment instead of temporary gratification. When you live meaningfully, your life matters more to you and the world.
It’s easy to get caught up in instincts, emotions or thought processes that lead in a negative direction. The key to being happy in life is to remember that your instincts, emotions and thoughts are only part of who you are because you have an additional layer of consciousness can override all those parts of your mind. This part of your mind, let’s call it your higher brain, is the one that has the final decision as to which direction you follow. You can turn it on anytime to guide yourself through even the most difficult situations. Whenever you feel like you’re doing things unconsciously, take a moment to use your higher brain to lead you in a positive direction.