It’s easy to get caught up in instincts, emotions or thought processes that lead in a negative direction. The key to being happy in life is to remember that your instincts, emotions and thoughts are only part of who you are because you have an additional layer of consciousness can override all those parts of your mind. This part of your mind, let’s call it your higher brain, is the one that has the final decision as to which direction you follow. You can turn it on anytime to guide yourself through even the most difficult situations. Whenever you feel like you’re doing things unconsciously, take a moment to use your higher brain to lead you in a positive direction.
It’s nearly impossible to be happy if you don’t trust yourself or other people. Trust means that you believe in yourself and others enough to do the things necessary to live a fulfilling life. A great way to build your ability to trust is to pick one area of your life, something you currently do where you don’t feel comfortable letting go, and decide to work on it anyway regardless of the outcome. Keep practicing and building yourself up little by little, work on yourself first and then help others achieve success like you.
A lot of people think they’ll be happy if they can just control everything others do. The irony is that this type of behavior is practiced by individuals who feel out of control deep inside. The key to finding balance and happiness in life is to work on the issues that make you want to control other people and find ways to control yourself instead. Heal yourself first and be genuinely happy and you won’t have the need to run other people’s lives.
Being happy is an ongoing process that takes conscious effort and dedication. Even the happiest person on earth has to work on it constantly and has ups and downs like anyone else. The key to true happiness is to move from wishing you could be happy to actually doing things to feel more successful and fulfilled. Take a moment and decide what you want to do to improve your situation and then do one small thing to make it happen. Keep practicing and, over time, you’ll experience the reality of being happy instead of wishing.
In order to be happy, it’s important to make sure that you don’t attach a label to yourself that will hold you back. If you label yourself as lazy then you’ll tend to move in that direction. If you label yourself as a failure then your actions will reflect that outlook. Get rid of labels and replace them with positive affirmations like:
- I’m successful.
- I’m talented.
- I’m worthwhile.
- I’m kind.
- I’m able to take action.