How to Be Happy

A Black and White Life

A lot of people paint themselves into a corner because they view everything as black or white, good or bad, right or wrong. When you see things this way you only have two options instead of many. Your world becomes a black and white TV instead of a color one.

It’s much easier to be happy when you open yourself up to multiple choices. There are many different solutions to the challenges that arise in life. Why not take the time to brainstorm and develop more than two? The more options you have, the happier and more well-rounded you’ll be.

It may seem confusing to have more than two choices, but the human brain is amazing at being able to select among many options. Give yourself a chance to explore all the amazing ideas available to you.

Your Behavior

The way you behave in life has a major impact on how happy you’ll be. Look at the following two examples of people’s behavior:

  1. Reserved, angry, mistrusting, defensive, stubborn and combative.
  2. Friendly, calm, trusting, welcoming, flexible and conciliatory.

Which one of these do you think might lead in a more positive direction? Which might give you better results in life? Which one might attract more people? Which one creates a better world? Which one might make you happier?

It’s up to you how you behave in life. Sure, you can get results by behaving either way, but only one will make you authentically happy. What will you do to treat yourself well and behave positively?

Areas for Improvement

People often forget to look at the areas in their lives that could use some improvement. It’s as if they think something bad will happen if they recognize they need to make adjustments. There’s nothing wrong with looking at yourself and admitting that you need to strengthen certain areas in order to be happy.

Once you’ve identified something you’d like to improve, take small steps to make it happen. There’s a big difference between saying you need to change and actually taking action.

Forgiveness and Being Happy

It’s important to forgive the people who have hurt you in your life so that you can be happy. When you hang on to anger or sadness you hold yourself back by giving the other person a lot of power. A much more positive alternative is to forgive them and move forward realizing how wonderful you are. This doesn’t mean that you agree with their behavior, just that you’ve decided to heal.