How to Be Happy

A Black and White Life

A lot of people paint themselves into a corner because they view everything as black or white, good or bad, right or wrong. When you see things this way you only have two options instead of many. Your world becomes a black and white TV instead of a color one.

It’s much easier to be happy when you open yourself up to multiple choices. There are many different solutions to the challenges that arise in life. Why not take the time to brainstorm and develop more than two? The more options you have, the happier and more well-rounded you’ll be.

It may seem confusing to have more than two choices, but the human brain is amazing at being able to select among many options. Give yourself a chance to explore all the amazing ideas available to you.

Your Behavior

The way you behave in life has a major impact on how happy you’ll be. Look at the following two examples of people’s behavior:

  1. Reserved, angry, mistrusting, defensive, stubborn and combative.
  2. Friendly, calm, trusting, welcoming, flexible and conciliatory.

Which one of these do you think might lead in a more positive direction? Which might give you better results in life? Which one might attract more people? Which one creates a better world? Which one might make you happier?

It’s up to you how you behave in life. Sure, you can get results by behaving either way, but only one will make you authentically happy. What will you do to treat yourself well and behave positively?

Make Your Own Decisions

It might be tempting to let some other person or entity make decisions for you. In the short-term it can even seem easier because you don’t have to face difficult situations or come up with your own answers to complex challenges. Then you wake up one day and realize that you haven’t been living your own life and that you’ve always depended on someone or something outside yourself.

Making your own decisions can be confusing and difficult but it’s the only way to be authentically happy in life. When you make your own choices you get to celebrate your accomplishments and learn from your journey. Along the way you’ll become more confident, grow as a person and live your own life.

Areas for Improvement

People often forget to look at the areas in their lives that could use some improvement. It’s as if they think something bad will happen if they recognize they need to make adjustments. There’s nothing wrong with looking at yourself and admitting that you need to strengthen certain areas in order to be happy.

Once you’ve identified something you’d like to improve, take small steps to make it happen. There’s a big difference between saying you need to change and actually taking action.

Be Silly

One of the best ways to live a happy life is to be silly regularly. A lot of people think being silly makes them look dumb or weak but it’s actually a great way to be happy and balanced. Make sure to have fun in life: Tell a few jokes, enjoy doing silly things, watch comedy movies or TV shows, read funny books, act kooky, laugh often and have fun with your friends and family. Life is only serious if you make it that way.