There will be times in your journey to find happiness when you feel like things aren’t working. That’s a normal part of creating change in your life. It takes practice and time to replace old behaviors with new ones. Remember that it’s OK to feel down, it can actually help you think of new ways to move forward and give you a chance to consider what’s worked and what needs adjustment.
A lot of people think that finding happiness means giving over your thoughts and actions to some outside expert. While it’s OK to seek advice and wisdom from others, it’s vitally important to stay on your own path and follow your own voice as you move in a positive direction. Don’t let other people define who you are or what you need to do. You’re the only person who gets to decide what you do and where you want to go.
The ability to see the connections between your thoughts, actions and what happens in your life is an important part of being happy. Take some time to ask yourself some questions to clarify what you think and do and improve the results you get:
Which of my thoughts lead me in a positive direction and which ones take me down another path?
- How do my positive and not-so-positive thoughts affect my progress in life?
- What is the effect in the outside world of my thoughts and actions? How do people relate to me and what kind of results do I get?
- What would I do differently to improve my results.
A lot of people look at being happy as a way to get back at other people as in: happiness is the best revenge. A major part of finding happiness is to stop looking at others and focus on your thoughts and behaviors instead. The more responsibility you take for your own actions, the greater your ability to move your life in any direction you choose.
A lot of people approach finding happiness as if they have to do everything at once. Some even put themselves down when things don’t come out how they expected or aren’t perfect. A few tips that will help you find happiness more easily include:
- Plan before you start.
- Take small steps.
- Celebrate when things go well.
- Make corrections as necessary.
- Treat yourself well along the way.
Finding happiness means developing strategies and taking action in the present. A lot of people spend time living in the past or wondering about a hypothetical future instead of taking small steps in the present. It’s your actions right now that will determine how you change what you’ve done in the past and influence what you’ll achieve in the future.
You don’t have to work on being happy solely on your own. There are many resources out there that can help you on your journey and abundant information online, from people and books. As you work on living a fulfilling, joyful life, don’t forget to reach out and look for outside support when you need it.