If you say you’re happy, you’re probably not. This may sound like a strange statement, but over many years of coaching thoughtful people I’ve discovered that individuals who say they’re happy are often the same ones who are profoundly miserable inside but trying to hide it at all costs. They’re unable to feel vulnerable or admit they’re having a hard time so they pretend everything’s going well.
True happiness is an ongoing struggle requiring that you let your guard down and show the world the real you. This opens you to all kinds of uncertainties and challenges but it also allows you to share your gifts and be who you are deep inside.
People who try to appear strong or always happy are likely not because their experience of joy is superficial, for show. Sure, a great job or fancy house can make you feel good temporarily, but it’s the hard work of looking at the deeper hurts and unresolved issues you carry that will eventually make you happy.
The key to being genuinely happy is to live life as yourself and keep working on being as authentic as possible. You may not be ecstatic at all times during the journey, but you’ll be moving toward true joy and fulfillment. What will you do to be truly happy?