How to Be Happy

How to Be Happy: Music

Music is one of those things that can make you happy in an instant. It triggers all kinds of feelings and memories. Listen to music that you find uplifting, positive and that energizes you. You might even consider playing an instrument or just walking around the house singing. Use music to lift your spirits and inspire you to enjoy life.

How to Be Happy: Integration

It’s impossible to be genuinely and deeply happy when different parts of your mind are thinking different things which lead you to behave inconsistently. For example: One part of you says you’re compassionate and another part of you doesn’t treat people compassionately. When various parts of your mind don’t work in sync, you’re left trying to highlight the part that makes you happy and suppressing the part that doesn’t. The easiest approach is integration, which means thinking consistently with all parts of your brain and behaving accordingly rather than expending a lot of effort trying to hide the parts you don’t want to acknowledge.

Comparing Yourself to Others

There’s no quicker path to misery than comparing yourself to others. The only person you need to be concerned about being is you:

  • Decide for yourself who you are.
  • Do the things you love to do.
  • Act the way you act.
  • Live life as the person you know you are deep inside.
  • Follow your own path.
  • Sing your own song.

Happy people understand that fulfillment and meaning comes from being themselves, not someone else. What will you do to find the real you and live life as yourself?

What You Say to Yourself

It’s hard to be happy if you have messages floating around in your head that sabotage your progress. It’s important to identify what those messages are so you can move past them. For example: Something inside you says that you can’t start a business; it’s up to you whether you continue to believe that voice or you replace it with something else.

It takes time an effort to change your inner dialogue but, when you do it, you’ll enjoy moving forward fearlessly.

Being Happy Is a Lifestyle

Being happy isn’t a one-time effort, it takes constant, conscious and deliberate action. Many people are surprised that doing one nice thing and then behaving negatively in the other areas of their lives doesn’t lead to bliss. That’s because happiness depends on a consistent pattern of thinking and behaving positively.

To be truly happy, do things that build you and the people around you up: Live from your heart, behave with kindness, treat people well, take care of yourself, do nice things, learn, love and be authentic. As you continue behaving positively over time you’ll be consistently more happy.